‘ “What you are doing is not good. You and these people who come to you will only wear yourselves out. The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone. Listen now to me and I will give you some advice, and may God be with you.” ‘
Jethro was Moses’ father-in-law and obviously a wise and compassionate man. He came out to the desert to return Moses’ wife and children to him. While there he celebrated Moses’ successes and observed his current actions. He noticed, as only an outside observer can, that Moses was working himself to death. His burden was too great. As only a great coach can, Jethro showed Moses another way and encouraged him to act on this new knowledge. He lit a new path for Moses to follow and helped Moses become more effective in his chosen work. After Jethro had rendered that invaluable service, Moses sent him on his way.
Jethro had done a fantastic job as a coach.
When I was taking care of my mother, I knew that I was burning out but I did not see another way to manage things. I believed that I had to do everything myself, that no one else could help me or do the job as well as I could.
‘ “That will make your load lighter, because they will share it with you. If you do this and God so commands, you will be able to stand the strain, and all these people will go home satisfied.” ‘
Eventually I learned to let go, even just a little bit, and allow others to help. One of those who helped was Jane, she hardly knew my mom but took her grocery shopping every week – a task that I loathed.
When we delegate to those we trust, we are better able to focus on the most effective use of our time and resources.
I owe great thanks to Jane and to all those who helped me care for my mom – I wouldn’t have made it without you.